Selfishness = A Love Lost

  Sometimes, for one reason or another relationships fall apart, and due to selfishness, you miss an opportunity to develop a real connection. Still, before you start pointing fingers and placing blame it may be time to bow out gracefully.

  Ending a relationship is never easy, especially when your partner no longer cares for you, but your heart is still involved.  Here are some steps to help you navigate this difficult process and this post may help you.

Acknowledge Your Feelings: 

  Recognizing and validating your emotions is important. Feeling hurt, sad, or even angry is natural.

Prepare for the Conversation: 

  Plan what you want to say. Be clear about your reasons for ending the relationship, focusing on your feelings rather than blaming your partner.

Choose the Right Time and Place: 

  Have the conversation in a private, quiet place where you can talk without interruptions.

Be Honest and Direct: 

  Clearly express your feelings and the reasons why you believe the relationship should end. Honesty is crucial, but try to be kind and considerate.

Listen to Their Perspective: 

  Allow your partner to share their thoughts and feelings. This can provide closure for both of you.

Avoid Arguments:

   Stay calm and avoid getting defensive. It's important to keep the conversation respectful.

Make a Clean Break:

  Once you've decided to end the relationship, it's often best to create some distance. This can help both of you move on more easily.

Seek Support: 

  Talk to friends, family, or a therapist about your feelings. Having a support system can make the process less isolating.

Take Care of Yourself:

  Focus on self-care and healing. Engage in activities that make you happy and help you relax.

Allow Yourself to Grieve:

  It's normal to feel a sense of loss after ending a relationship. Give yourself time to process and heal.

  

  Remember, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. Ending a relationship gracefully can be a step toward a healthy friendship.

This song by Michael McDonald could pull up a memory of regret.

Stay Healthy

M.N.Curry

The Skyliners, The DoWop Years

   I'm going off the beaten course to dig up an old memory with this one, remembering back in the early years of DoWop when I was around 13 years old when radios were using vacuum tubes instead of electronics.  Around that time I was listening to a local radio station when there was this certain song that stopped me in my tracks.  This period was just before Motown hit the airwaves with the Miracles with songs made for blue light basement parties.  Songs like "Bad Girl" and "Who's Loving You" just to name a couple.  And for the guys who wanted to make an impression on a girl and steal her heart simultaneously, there was one song that could do it just before Motown broke out in the early '60s.  There was a song by a group called The Skyliners, "Since I Don't Have You", which was introduced to the airwaves in 1959.    This must have started more love affairs than any song played that can be imagined.  Well, relationships have changed since then and that's too bad, those were some memorable years and we will never see them again.

The Year is1969, and the song, "Since I Don't Have You"

                           

Digging up old memories

M.N.Curry

Love Relationships Are Emotional

   Before you lose track of your emotions take a minute to really think about and assess what ramifications of your decision would lead to. This post is for those who have gotten turned around and need to catch up on how a love relationship is supposed to work. which seems like the case of a lot of couples these days.  Real relationships have never been a one-way street or easy for that matter.  Life is difficult enough as it is without constantly having to look over your shoulder to watch your own back.  Trust, honesty, understanding, communication, and these are the most important for a start. It takes time to get to know someone especially if you both plan to take it to the next level.  I know a little about that having been there a couple of times.

  The year was 1981 and I was 29 and living the life roaming all over Germany in my old used BMW 735i even with that my rap needed a little help and like so many other guys at that time, I let the music especially love songs set the mood. There were love songs for just about every situation.  But then music has always been used to set the stage for the next step,  Enter Champaign, with a song called "How Bout Us" just what I needed to set the atmosphere and to spark that emotional OK.  And in remembrance of those bygone days here's something to think about.

                                                                 

                       

Think before you act.

M.N.Curry