How to Unlock the Door to Intimacy

 

                    Unlocking Intimacy: A Guide for Women

  Intimacy is more than just physical closeness; it’s about connecting deeply with your partner on emotional, mental, and spiritual levels. Whether you’re in a new relationship or have been together for years, here are some proven ways to enhance intimacy:

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1.   Disclose More: Intimacy thrives on discovery. Share your thoughts, fears, and dreams with your partner. Be open and encourage them to do the same. Vulnerability fosters closeness, which is why trust and honesty play an important role.

2.   Deep Conversations: Set aside time for meaningful talks. Discuss your day, your feelings, and your aspirations. These moments of emotional exchange create a sense of intimacy. Communication is the key!

3.   Shared Experiences: Doing something new or significant together strengthens your bond. Whether it’s tackling a project, raising pets, or helping others, shared experiences build intimacy.

4.   Relish the Routine: Predictability isn’t always boring. Becoming more predictable to each other can lead to intimacy. Simple acts like hugging before bed or sharing a meal become reassuring and comforting.

5.   Non-Judgmental Listening: Create an emotionally safe space for your partner. When they share, listen without judgment. Feeling heard and understood fosters intimacy and that requires being a good listener.

   Take that leap into honesty, embrace vulnerability, and unlock the door to a deeper connection with your partner.

I hope you find this post helpful

                  M.N.Curry

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Online Dating; How It's Changing

 

  In the past decade, personal relationships have undergone significant transformations. Let’s explore some key trends and shifts:

1. Online Dating and Apps:

   • The rise of online dating platforms and mobile apps has revolutionized how people meet and connect.
   • Nearly three in 10 U.S. adults have used a dating site or app, making it a popular avenue for finding potential partners1.
   • Dating app success rates vary, but approximately 70% of individuals who met someone on a dating app reported that it led to a romantic, exclusive relationship1.
   • Interestingly, males tend to have more success with online dating than females.
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2. Changing Attitudes:

   • #MeToo Movement: The #MeToo movement has influenced dating dynamics. It has raised awareness about consent, boundaries, and respectful behavior.
   • Perceived Difficulty: Nearly half of U.S. adults (and most women) believe dating has become harder over the last 10 years.
   • Increased Risk: Some people find dating more challenging due to perceived risks, including physical risks and the possibility of scams or deception.
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3. Delayed Marriage and Commitment:

   • People are getting married later in life. Desiring personal growth, career focus, and financial stability often delays commitment.
   • Committed Relationships: Despite changes, many individuals still seek committed relationships. The interest in finding a long-term partner remains strong.
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4. Mental Health Impact:

   • Online Dating Stress: Some struggle with the mental health effects of online dating. The pressure to find a match and the constant swiping can take a toll.
   • Navigating Expectations: Balancing expectations, communication, and vulnerability in relationships can be challenging.
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5. Evolution of Love and Relationships:

   • As social media and technology play larger roles, people question how love and relationships are evolving.
   • Adaptability: Couples learn to adapt through life changes, creating a rich tapestry of memories and lessons over the years.
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   Personal relationships have shifted due to technology, cultural movements, and changing norms. While challenges exist, the desire for meaningful connections remains strong. 

Think before you act.

M.N.Curry

Why relationships fail.

  

  Relationships can fail for various reasons, and it’s difficult to pinpoint a single cause, however, some common reasons include lack of commitment, constant arguing or conflict, infidelity, marrying too soon, unrealistic expectations, different priorities, poor communication, and little intimacy.

  According to a study by psychologists Daks and Rogge from the University of Rochester, psychological inflexibility is a major cause of relationship failure. Psychologically inflexible people not only experience more distress and suffering, but they also experience less satisfaction in their relationships. They are less satisfied with their sex life and show less emotional support towards their partner. Naturally, their partner doesn’t get much satisfaction from the relationship either. Psychologically inflexible people are more likely to act in destructive and abusive ways – from yelling, insulting, pushing, slapping, and abusing their partner.  The end result will be a feeling of insecurity in the relationship and the need to distance themselves. So it's obvious that expectations are blurred due to the lack of honest communication which involves being a good listener and mutual respect.

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 M.N.Curry

  

Love Relationships Are Emotional

   Before you lose track of your emotions take a minute to really think about and assess what ramifications of your decision would lead to. This post is for those who have gotten turned around and need to catch up on how a love relationship is supposed to work. which seems like the case of a lot of couples these days.  Real relationships have never been a one-way street or easy for that matter.  Life is difficult enough as it is without constantly having to look over your shoulder to watch your own back.  Trust, honesty, understanding, communication, and these are the most important for a start. It takes time to get to know someone especially if you both plan to take it to the next level.  I know a little about that having been there a couple of times.

  The year was 1981 and I was 29 and living the life roaming all over Germany in my old used BMW 735i even with that my rap needed a little help and like so many other guys at that time, I let the music especially love songs set the mood. There were love songs for just about every situation.  But then music has always been used to set the stage for the next step,  Enter Champaign, with a song called "How Bout Us" just what I needed to set the atmosphere and to spark that emotional OK.  And in remembrance of those bygone days here's something to think about.

                                                                 

                       

Think before you act.

M.N.Curry

The Total Body Benefit of Walking

  As a bonified senior citizen and an avid walker, I can attest to the benefits of going on those daily walks.  Walking, for me at least, clears the cobwebs from my mind helps to put my thoughts into perspective, and clears the way for problem-solving.  Below are some things that you'll receive in the form of benefits from walking.  You're Never Too Old!

1. Maintain a Healthy Weight and Lose Body Fat: Walking helps burn calories and maintain a healthy weight. It’s a gentle yet effective way to manage body fat levels.

2. Heart Health: Regular brisk walking contributes to cardiovascular fitness. It strengthens the heart, improves blood circulation, and reduces the risk of heart disease and stroke.

3. Muscle Strength and Flexibility: Walking engages various muscle groups, enhancing strength and flexibility. It’s particularly beneficial for maintaining strong leg muscles and improving overall mobility.

4. Fall Prevention: Walking helps improve balance and coordination, reducing the risk of falls. Strong leg muscles and better stability contribute to fall prevention.

5. Bone Health: Weight-bearing activities like walking stimulate bone density, crucial for preventing osteoporosis and maintaining healthy bones.

6. Mental Well-Being: Walking outdoors provides fresh air, sunlight, and a change of scenery. It can alleviate anxiety, depression, and stress, promoting better mental health.

7. Social Interaction: Walking with friends, family, or in group settings fosters social connections. It’s an opportunity to engage in conversations and build relationships.

8. Improved Sleep: Regular physical activity, including walking, positively impacts sleep quality. Seniors who walk tend to experience better sleep patterns.

9. Boosted Immune System: Staying active supports immune function. Walking helps keep the immune system robust and ready to defend against illnesses.

10. Interval Training: Alternating brisk and leisurely walking (interval training) offers additional benefits. It improves cardiovascular fitness and burns more calories than regular walking.

Remember, good posture and purposeful movements are essential during your walks. Keep your head up, swing your arms freely, and maintain a smooth stride from heel to toe. Get fitted for a good walking shoe it makes a big difference.

Stay Healthy

M.N.Curry

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Do You Hear What I Hear: Tinnitus

 

  Tinnitus is when a person hears a ringing sound in the ear without any external source.  It is normally not a serious condition and goes away with treatment.  Some of the symptoms are, singing in the ear without an external source, whoosing sound that matches the heartbeat, ringing in the ear, and clicking noise.

  Age-related hearing loss is the most common cause of tinnitus in seniors.  Other causes are blood vessel damage in the brain near the ear, high blood pressure or overactive thyroid, and tumors in the head or neck near the ear.  Other factors could be involved,  so here is when a physician needs to be seen.

  Tinnitus can lead to sleep issues, fatigue, stress, difficulty concentrating, cardiovascular problems, problems with your memory, depression, and stroke.  There is medication available that can help. If you experience severe or persistent symptoms it's time to get a consultation.

Stay Healthy

M.N.Curry

Dem Dry Bones; How to Maintain Bone Health

  Originally this song was written around 1928 by brothers James and Rosomond Johnson.  It tells the story of how Ezekial (37:1-14) visits the Valley of Dry Bones and prophesies that the dead will one day rise again at the command of the Lord and walk around.  If you feel the urge to get up off that couch and do a little walking around yourself you can call it - exercise.

  Maintaining bone density is crucial for seniors to prevent fractures and other bone-related issues. Here are some tips to increase bone density naturally:

1. Consume calcium-rich foods: Calcium is essential for bone health. Foods such as milk, cheese, yogurt, and leafy greens are great sources of calcium 1.

2. Get enough vitamin D: Vitamin D helps the body absorb calcium. Sunlight is a natural source of vitamin D, but it can also be found in foods such as fatty fish, egg yolks, and fortified cereals 1.

3. Exercise regularly: Weight-bearing exercises such as walking, jogging, and weightlifting can help increase bone density 234.

4. Avoid smoking and excessive drinking: Smoking and excessive alcohol consumption can lead to bone loss and increase the risk of fractures 2.

5. Consult a doctor: If you’re concerned about your bone health or your risk factors for osteoporosis, including a recent bone fracture, consult your doctor. He or she might recommend a bone density test. The results will help your doctor gauge your bone density and determine your rate of bone loss 1.

Stay Healthy

M.N.Curry

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Balance exercises for seniors.

  As we age we become more prone to the slings and arrows of getting older. I know, it's a dang shame but there are things that we can do to at least keep our ability to stay mobile as much as possible.  One way is to do balance exercises that will not only keep you on your toes so to speak, but sharpen the reflexes.  As an active 76-year-old, I ought to know. Ever since 60 when became the new 40 I've been trying to stay current.  As much as I can.

Here are some balance exercises for seniors that you can try at home:

1. Single leg stance: Stand behind a sturdy chair and hold on to the back of it. Lift up your right foot and balance on your left foot for 20 seconds, then switch legs 1.
2. Hip abduction: Stand behind a sturdy chair and hold on to the back of it. Swing your leg out to the side 10 times, then change legs 1.
3. Tandem stance: Stand behind a sturdy chair and hold on to the back of it. Place one foot in front of the other and hold for 20 seconds, then change feet 1.
4. Hip extension: Stand behind a sturdy chair and hold on to the back of it. Keep your leg straight and bring it back 10 times, then change legs 1.
5. Toe taps: Stand behind a sturdy chair and hold on to the back of it. Tap your foot in different directions (front, side, back, across) and follow the instructions 1.
6. Squats: Stand behind a sturdy chair and hold on to the back of it. Hinge at the hips and sit back 10 times 1.
7. Marching: Stand behind a sturdy chair and hold on to the back of it. Move your arms and legs on the spot for 30 seconds 1.

  It’s important to warm up before doing the workout, to hold on to a chair if needed, and to challenge oneself by reducing the hand support. Repeat the workout regularly to improve balance and strength 123.

I hope this helps!

Stay Healthy

M.N.Curry